You may be really surprised at how much is possible if the child never gets the idea that he “can’t.” Can’t is a horrible word, perhaps one of the most disabling words in the English language. Don’t concentrate on what your child cannot do; concentrate on what he can do, and build on that every chance you get. As you do, “can’t” will get smaller and smaller with the passing of each day
The above quote is from Thanks Mom: What My Mother Did Right by Frank Klein. Found this page today while googling to decide how I feel about my son’s preschool teacher telling him not to flap his hands. When we took our oldest to be eval’d over hand flapping and tics, the doc told us to ignore it unless it bugged her socially, which it hasn’t thus far, for her. He never seems nervous or upset when I pick him up from school, so I’m not sure how I feel about this. I think we’ll just keep ignoring the flapping at home, and let the teacher do what she does at school, unless it starts to become a problem at either place.
Gah. Parenting is tough.